The Ultimate Dating Guide
The Ultimate Dating Guide
Do you want more sex than you’re getting right now? Are you committed to taking your sex and dating life to the next level? Are you prepared to do a little bit of work to get there? In this in-depth post ‘The Ultimate Dating Guide’, we’re going to talk about the exact mindset used by the men who are the natural players with women. These are the guys who have sex with literally hundreds of women in every situation you can imagine. You probably know a guy like that. When I was in college, there was this one dude, James, who seemed to be able to literally get any woman attracted to him just by talking to her. It was surreal. The longer a woman would talk with him, the more attracted she would become. And if there was a woman I liked, I didn’t dare introduce her to James. Otherwise I’d later have to hear her say, “Your friend James is so charming!” and she’d be in bed with him within a day. I have to confess, I hated James a little bit..
NLP and Seduction
It really surprises me that more men don’t study the players. In Neurolinguistic programming (NLP) there’s a brilliant concept which massively assists anyone to get better at absolutely skill. It’s called ‘modelling’. In a nutshell, it means that if you want to get good at something, you need to find out how the guys who are already good at that thing are doing it. And then just do what they are doing! You’ve just saved yourself ten years of trial and error right there.. It’s like how if you want to become rich, you’d be crazy to start doing what some broke guy or unsuccessful business guy has done because what he did hasn’t worked! Instead, you should study some self-made millionaires and then emulate what they did. Or if you want to become a star recording artist, sportsman, or engineer or anything else, you study those who have been successful at that and then copy their behaviour It’s the same with seduction.
Well, I have some really good news for you. Firstly, women are not that hard to figure out after all and secondly, some really clever guys have already figured it all out for us. All we have to do is follow the strategies and ideas they have worked out and we will have the same amazing success. Women are incredibly easy when you compare them to many of the other challenges in life. And that is what Red Hot Seduction is all about. We are dedicated to showing you all the methods, strategies and tools that you need to figure out women so you can enjoy your dating and sexual life to the max with no stress, confusion or frustration.
Now, to understand these men who can get laid with practically any woman they want, let’s look at who they are and what they do. There are a number of very high level guys who have really analysed women, their behaviour and sexuality and what’s interesting is that all four of these men have come to the same conclusions. We’re going to be describing these ideas in this article in some depth so keep reading. David Shade, John Alexander, Joshua Pellicer and David Wygant are the four leaders in this field and I 100% credit them transforming me from low level beta loser with women to a high functioning, highly successful Alpha Male having now dated well over a hundred of the best and most stunning women you could imagine. These guys are brilliant. They have set out strategies, mindset changes, posture, body language, voice, dress and behaviour changes which will unlock the secrets of the Ultimate Dating Guide for you.
While there is no doubt these guys are all geniuses for having worked this stuff out for us, that also means that we don’t have to be geniuses to simply apply it! The guys who use this informatin and achieve the same incredible success that I have are just like you and me. Most of us are not high-IQ geiuses. We’re just regular guys, wanting to improve and change our attitudes towards sex and dating. When I was going through my own years of struggle with not being able to get laid no matter what I did, one of the most frustrating facts for me was that despite being proud of how well-read and educated I was… I just got no action from the ladies.
Then I saw how many of the men who get massively laid only have average intelligence levels. “What the heck is so special about them?” I thought.Many of the students who have skyrocketed their sex lives since reading and watching the programs we recommend are highly intelligent men who were getting zero action before they took our advice. So no, it’s definitely not intelligence that these new players have in common that makes them successful. And besides, intelligence, when it’s applied too heavily toward getting females, backfires. It’s as simple as that. The only truly smart thing you need to do is just follow our advice. And check out our article on the Top 10 Seduction/Dating programs Online. It’s packed with world class information and strategies. We have done all the studying and figured this all out. We have found the tools, programs and strategies which are so successful that you will hardly believe how successful you can become in an amazingly short period of time. Starting right now.
You also know that being the “nice guy” gets you nothing. All it got me was women telling me things like, “You’re such a nice guy, and you really deserve an awesome girl!”
In the case of good looks, that certainly gives you a bit of a boost. But you need to have a lot more than that. There are plenty of plain and regular guys getting tons of ass, and there are plenty of “pretty boys” getting zero. Women care about that stuff a lot less than you think. Trust me, I am a very average looking, slim guy with no muscles and I have been with more of thOSE heart stopping 9’s and 10’s than you can imagine. Read on, I’m going to tell you my Ultimate Dating Tips to get you thinking and I have some excellent recommendations for further study too. Check out our Secrets of Sex category page for tons of great ideas. And while it doesn’t hurt to have money, there are plenty of rich guys who can’t get laid and plenty of guys getting laid who aren’t rich. (I’m not rich either, it hasn’t made the slightest bit of difference to me, women queue up for me, honestly) Also, on that note, the last thing on earth you want is a gold-digger who only wants you for money, they are the ultimate bad news and you should drop them like a stone (once you’ve taken them for a test run naturally)
So if it’s not looks, money or even status, it must be something else…
Ultimate Dating Guide Tip 1. Change your mindset and everything changes.
The first thing I noticed was that men who are successful with women all realize deep down inside that there is nothing magical or unique about any woman. One woman can be easily replaced by another.
Red Hot Seduction is all about being respectful to women, so this isn’t a sexist belief and it doesn’t reduce women in any way. What it does is prevents you from viewing women as superior to you. It pulls them down off their pedestal in your mind. No woman is “The One.” You see, if you stop worrying about what any individual woman thinks of you, then your neediness and desperation both vanish. The best attitude to have is “There is only one woman in the world. One woman, with many faces.”
This is where I see a lot of guys in the “seduction community” screw up, especially the ones who are not getting laid. Someone will discover hypnotic patterns or attraction-building routines and try to memorize the hell out of them. But the net result of all that work is to keep women up on that pedestal. This of course keeps driving them away. Then the guy not getting laid just keeps studying like crazy, trying as hard as he can but rarely getting anything more than a woman’s phone number. Meanwhile, the men who are getting laid are the guys who relax, enjoy themselves and act cool. It’s sad for the guys who are losing out really, but the good news for you is that all you need to do is change your mindset and all the sex and romance you’ll ever want will flow into your life as naturally as turning on a water faucet. Seriously guys, realise this.. Change your mindset and everything changes.
So this is the Ultimate Dating Tip 1. Change your mindset and everything changes. Adopt an Alpha mindset and your world will change forever.
Ultimate Dating Guide Tip 2. Make yourself the prize, not her.
One of the biggest, most educational experiences I ever had was to be the roommate of a smoking hot female who made money as a model and actress. What I got – and what you’ll get if you do this – is a really amazing “behind the scenes” look. It makes you realize that there’s absolutel nothing special about even the hottest chicks in the world. This is because when you’re a woman’s roommate, she doesn’t consider you a romantic prospect. Instead you’re like her brother, so she does all the gross things that any guy does, from passing gas to picking disgusting boogers out of her nose. One time she went into the bathroom and had loud “number 2” (as obnoxious and gross as any guy would do it) – and then literally one minute later walked outside to the swimming pool of our apartment complex where all the guys would drool over her bikinied body. They had no idea that there was nothing special about this woman when the reality was that she was just human as anyone else. Instead they had her up on the ridiculous pedestal and they made fools of themselves all afternoon buying her drinks and trying to be funny and of course she played them all like little toys and then came home and laughed at them and told me how pathetic they all were. No matter of they were six foot three and buff as hell, they were all losers in her mind. There wasn’t a single Alpha Male amongst them who knew how to handle her. Read on, we’re going to show you how..
My own success with women started to turn around when I realized that women are not magical creatures who should be put up on a pedestal. I was then able to “see the matrix,” so to speak. Here’s the way the world works for a hot woman. She realizes the powerful effect she can have on most guys just by smiling at them. And she uses that power for her own amusement with no intention of getting with any of them because in truth she sees them all as weak and below her. And of course it goes without saying that she does not have sex with any of the drooling guys. They simply do not interest her.
Here’s another example.. I have another close female friend who works as a stripper. If there’s anyone who experiences tons of men drooling over them, it’s a stripper. Definitely make friends with one if you ever get the chance. (Do not try to get into her pants though. Just be her 100% platonic friend, you’ll learn a lot more.)
It’s eye-opening to see what kind of man a stripper falls for. It’s never one of the men who stuffs money into her g-string. Nope, it’s not any of them, not a single one. Instead the guy a stripper falls for is the guy who’s the opposite of those needy, weak minded guys about her. The guy who doesn’t drool or follow her around like a new puppy. You need to stop being needy little fan-boys guys. Women seriously hate that behaviour and will instantly lose any attraction for you as soon as she sees that needy face and body language before you’ve even opened your mouth.
Anyway, my stripper friend will get off the phone with some elusive bad boy type and try to get me to analyze whether he likes her or not. Then she’ll tell me how this guy goes days without calling her. And that it seems like he never has time for her. “Sorry I had to take that call,” she’ll tell you. “He’s very hard to get ahold of.” I of course roll my eyes because I know exactly what’s going on. She is going crazy about this guy only because the scarcity principle is working its magic on her brain. But of course she thinks she likes this guy “because he’s so fascinating and cool” (her exact words).I don’t like telling my own success stories, I don’t need to brag, but let me tell you what happened to me recently just to prove the point.
I was at an all-day wedding party that was full of single guys and exactly one single woman. She was . Like Hollywoodfilm goddess HOT! She was wearing this ridiculous outfit, clothes that were teasingly revealing and designed purely to get male attention. It was fascinating to watch the average beta male behaviour all around her. Before too long I started seeing guy after guy try to force himself into conversation with her. The ones that were afraid to even speak with her would conveniently “just happen” to stand near her when they were having their drinks, hoping in the back of their minds that she would strike up a conversation with them, which of course she never did. It didn’t take long to realize why all these dudes were still single (and destined to go back to their rooms alone that night to jerk of thinking about her). You see, when you enter the woman’s frame by acting like a needy puppydog, she automatically labels you a loser and you’ve lost before you’ve even opened your mouth. And there’s almost nothing you can say to change her mind once that first impression has been made.
A hot woman doesn’t take any of this dating stuff seriously. She knows she can get just about any guy she wants, and she feels good simply because of the self-esteem boost she gets from that. Oftentimes she doesn’t need any more than that to feel good about herself. I will take a different kind of man to stir her out of that comfort zone and we’re going to describe him..
A hot woman will go out wearing ridiculous skin tight clothes just to see who bows before her and who thinks her vagina is made of gold. She uses your obvious longing for her against you. She makes herself the prize and enjoys seeing all her puppy dogs fawning around her. Which of them will she chose? That’s right, NONE of them. In her eyes they are all weak little fools. They guy she’ll go for is the powerful Alpha man across the room who is following all of the strategies and mindset rules we are writing about here and which are detailed in the other programs which we have used to change our sex life from loser to Sex God.
Once you realize this simple fact, your success skyrockets. I was the only one at the wedding party refusing to pay attention to her or become absorbed in her reality – and you can take a guess whose attention she was practically begging for by the end of the night.
As an alpha male who is attractive to women, you are not captivated by any single woman. Any interest and attention a woman receives from you she has to earn. That’s right, it’s time to turn the tables and make yourself the prize. As soon as you start to behave like that, she will be instantly interested. And even if you can’t have this attitude for real yet, you should at least pretend not to be interested in her! She’s so used to the pathetic puppy dogs that she will unconsciously be drawn to a strong mindset guy and start to compete with the other women for your attention. (We’re going to talk about Social Proof, a very powerful concept later)Just this one behavior and mindset got me a lot more sex than I’d ever have believed. Rather than my being captivated by women, it all of a sudden became the other way around! No longer was there any need to be afraid of talking to women or to put out a whole lot of effort to get them. All you need to do is label their attention-seeking behavior as “cute” and not fall for it like the other guys. Put yourself first and make yourself the prize and the tables will be turned in your favour. Realize that women are just plain, ordinary humans and not worth going crazy about.
So here’s Ultimate Tip 2. Make yourself the prize, not her.
Ultimate Dating Tip 3. Unlearn the crap you’ve been brought up to believe.
In seduction, it seems like the top 20% of men are having 80% of the sex with women. Or maybe it’s more like 10% are having90% of the sex! In any case, as I’ve said, if you want to be part of that small group of men having most of the sex, you need to do what they do. You must have the same beliefs about women and yourself that they do. I highly recommend checking out the genius gus I mentioned earlier, they have all developed outstanding training programs which have totally transformed my sex life and you can do the same.
So here’s a massive truth, let this sink in for a moment… Read this over and over until it takes hold in your brain…
Women love sex and want it as much as you do. No question. Having dated and questioned hundreds of women about this, it is unquestionably 100% true. Women love sex and want it all the fucking time. If you are surprised by this , then read on.. The trouble is, society has brought both sexes up to think that this is somehow bad or wrong and so women have had to hide their desires inside of marriage or relationships and even then they find it hard to really express themselves very often. And that’s where you come in. The Alpha Man is exactly what they are looking for. A man who truly understands them, their needs and desires. Who realises that they want sex as a natural and normal expression of their femininity and they want it a lot. All they need is a strong Alpha man who can bring this out of them. And when you do… I’m telling you guys, sex with a woman who is released from the stupid rules of society and can really let go and express herself is like nothing else. Totally of the charts. Once you experience this there is no going back and you will have then queuing up for you. I know this because this is the journey I have travelled and I want more men (and women) to feel it too. It’s our natural birthright.
You see, tons of women will tell you that they’d never sleep with a man on a first date. But of course, their actions reveal a different story – that under the right conditions, almost every woman would absolutely have sex, even on the first night they knew you.They will use you for sex, as a matter of fact. You might even find the woman kicking you out of her house right after she’s done with you! That’s fine, be a gentleman, thank her for a good time and leave with a confident walk. Do NOT revert to puppy dog just because she’s slept with you! If you continue to follow the principles we outline here, make yourself the prize once more and utilise the Scarcity Principle (basically women want what they can’t have, go figure..) she will be calling or texting you to come round for more by the end of the day.
This is a very externally-focused world we are living in. You’re conditioned by society to believe that women do not like sex. You’re conditioned to sometimes think a lot of them are bitches. You’re conditioned to believe that you are not a man of high value, and that only other men (not you) deserve great things in life. You’re conditioned to believe that you should feel embarrassed if you make a mistake and other people may think bad things about you. Etc, etc.
The truth is women want what you’ve got, badly. They want to throw themselves at you if you would only let them. That means the true goal of the aspiring alpha male is not to force yourself to learn and practice a bunch of new things, but instead to change your mindset and beliefs about yourself and women to ones which empower you to succeed.
Ultimate Tip 3.Unlearn the crap you’ve been brought up to believe.
Ultimate Tip 4. Destroy Neediness. You become the Prize for her to work for.
Ok, now we’re getting into some high level Jedi stuff here and its absolute gold dust. This principle alone will transform your dating life without question. Fundamentally, an Alpha Man is happy and comfortable in himself, and their happiness comes from inside, not from external things. Self-doubt and other negative thoughts just don’t enter their reality. The men who have the most sex are openly sexual guys and proudand unashamed of it. And as a result, women crave to be in their world and will fight to get in as if sucked in magnetically. What the true Alpha Man must have is the ability to just be in the moment. And not just with regard to women, this is true for everything in life. Work, sports, relationships, family. Everything.
This is where a lot of guys who discover so called ‘seduction methods’ start to screw up. They’re coming from a background of having little or no success with women, and so they do not believe they are worthy. Their mindset is all wrong and they think they have to compete for a woman who they see as ‘special’ and up on a pedestal. As you now know, that thinking is completely the wrong way around. Instead though, they think things like, “What hypnotic pattern can I run on this woman to fool her into having sex with me?” Or, “What ‘attraction-building’ story can I give this woman, so that she laughs at what I say and thinks I’m a captivating guy?” and a bunch of other needy, beta man BS that goes through their heads which doom them to failure. These sorts of tactics will never elevate you to Alpha Male status. Remember, attracting women is easy. The natural (or trained) alpha males don’t do that stuff. Instead what the successful guys do is they change their mindset and realize their own awesomeness.
So here’s the Jedi move you need to make. To eliminate neediness, whenever you see yourself starting to wag your little puppy dog tail, just turn and walk away from the woman and go talk to someone else. Then, when she see you talking to another woman and making her laugh, she will want what the other woman is getting (your attention) and then you start to turn the tables and she’ll start to move towards you. This stuff works like magic, seriously.
So, when you’re talking to any woman, just ask yourself..
- What has she done to earn my attention right now?
- How many ways is she seeking my approval right now?
- (And, just for fun and to crush any puppy dog feelings…) What does she sound like when she’s in the bathroom?
Just by asking these few questions, you change your mindset from being a man of low value to a man of high value. Now when you give her good conversation, it’s not because you’re forcing yourself to do it as a way to entertain her. Instead it’s the reward you give her. You give the woman good feelings, not the other way around. You enjoy yourself, the woman enjoys herself, and sex with her becomes the easiest thing in the world. Your state of mind is the most important thing because it affects everything else you do. If you realize your own awesomeness, your conversation flows rather than you struggling for words or stumbling, you come across as desirable instead of creepy, you’re indifferent to the woman when you need to be, and you’re interested in her when she’s earned your interest.
I know it’s not a typical thing to undo all your societal conditioning. Your mind has built up an identity and set of labels for yourself. Deep down you feel comfortable when you cling to these inner beliefs. But we ar not interested in being typical or normal. Normal is boring, normal is what those needy guys do when they try to impress a woman and she makes him beg for crappy sex. Do you want that? If you’re still reading this then the answer is obviously no. You want a queue of women fighting to get to you to give them the hard, all night fucking they crave so desperately. You have to destroy your neediness and make yourself the prize. Women are not magical beings, they’re just humans who go to the bathroom and sometimes smell bad and think stupid thoughts, just like the rest of us.
So here’s Ultimate Tip 4 again, Destroy Neediness. Make yourself the Prize for her to work for.
Finally, I have a question for you to ponder… Could it be that the only thing holding you back is that you’re just not realizing how easy this stuff is? That’s deep by the way… This is the big picture I want you to start to see. Think about this, Harry Houdini was considered the greatest magician of all time. He would escape from handcuffs and every other kind of locked restraint you can imagine. His audiences would number in the thousands, and the roar of the crowd when he escaped from the most impossible-looking restraints was deafening. His abilities seemed magical and impossible by the crowds who didn’t know his secrets. He became known as the “King of Handcuffs” because no one could figure out how he did it. Did he have some sort of supernatural powers? Was he uniquely gifted or had he been born with superior abilities?
No. He didn’t!!
How did he perform his apparent miracles..? All he did was use hidden keys. You might think, “Hidden keys? Thats it? Thats the big secret? Just hidden keys? Anyone can do that!”…and you’re absolutely right to think that. That is the whole point of this article. You might have been watching all these “players” and “ladies men” and “alpha males” and wondering what their big secrets are… And now you know. The hidden key is you.
The information here and the programs I have recommended to you have dramatically changed my dating life and all the guys who write and work for Red Hot Seduction. When you get this stuff right, everything falls into place and attracting women becomes truly easy and effortless. Then you become one of those guys like my friend James at the top of this article. You become an Alpha Man who women crave and desire. And honestly, it’s the best feeling in the world, not just for the endless sex but it’s your birthright and you owe it to yourself. So just TAKE ACTION and check some of this information out RIGHT NOW and you will be amazed at how quickly your life starts to change. Make sure you share this article on Facebook, Pinterest, Twitter, Tumblr and anywhere else you like. We are dedicated to getting this information out there to help men (and women) around the world have a better sex life and so help us out by spreading the world. ACT NOW guys. BE ALPHA.