The 21 Steps to becoming an Alpha Male

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The 21 Steps to becoming an Alpha Male

He is a man of honor, integrity, and strength.

1. Be Real With Yourself.

Self awareness is a quality held by few – very few. There aren’t many who can see their deepest failures and weaknesses, and have the cobecoming an alpha maleurage to work on them. There are even fewer that have the courage not to cover them up, or to fill the voids in their lives with quick fixes.

Quick fixes are the norm in today’s society, but they can’t exist in the life of an alpha male. He doesn’t fill his loneliness with drugs or porn. He doesn’t fill his insecurities by making fun of others and preying on the perceived weaknesses of others. He’s aware of the voids in his life, the emptiness, the longing for something greater, and he actively attempts to become a better person by making these his strengths.

Be real with yourself. What are your insecurities? Make them known. Say them out loud. That’s the first step in becoming a strong, courageous alpha male.

2. Do Your Thing.

The more I read about great leaders, and by correlation, great alpha males, I realize that they marched to the bbecoming an alpha maleeat of their own drum. They had their own agenda in life. They had their own principles, passions, and they wouldn’t let others pull them from their mission. This is not only a defining quality of a great leader, and a great man, but of an alpha male. A true alpha male doesn’t need a crowd to boost his ego. He’s self aware to the point that he knows his weaknesses, his misgivings, and he doesn’t need others to fill voids in his life. Create your own path in life. Find what you’re passionate about, make sure it benefits others, and don’t let any barrier stand in your way. It’s when we have the internal strength to do our own thing, we can become a leader, and a true Alpha Male.

3. Seek to Do That Which You Fear.

I never get into arguments on Facebook, or Youtube, or the blog. To me, it’s just a waste of time. But the other day I did get in an argument with someone who scolded me for encouraging a young guy in a fight he said he had to go tbecoming an alpha malehrough with the following day.

Fact: the only way to defeat a bully is to stand strong, firm, and fight him. Avoiding him, her, it, will lead you to a life of weakness. Sometimes we have to walk into a battle knowing that we’re probably going to get our ass kicked, and take that beating like a man to earn the respect of not only our peers, but ourselves.

If my son is being bullied, I’ll tell him to stand and fight, just like my Old Man told me when I was younger. And guess what, I fought a bully once, and never had to fight anyone bullying me again.

Don’t merely do the things you’re afraid of, get in touch with your soul, and seek out that which you fear, then conquer it head on. For some, that might be fighting a bully, for others, that may mean quitting your job and starting your company. Others might have to travel.

You know what you’re afraid of. An alpha male doesn’t merely wait for an opportunity to face his fear; he understands that it’s the fight, the battle, that strengthens him, and times of calm, of peace, that weaken him.

4. Live a Life of a Warrior.

becoming an alpha maleA warrior without a battle is akin to a man without a purpose; without a soul. As men, we need adventure, we need a battle, and I’m convinced that we need to look at our lives as if they’re one big war. What are we fighting? There is a strong part of our hearts – the warrior in us – and a weak part: the coward. The coward wants to take the easy road, the path of least resistance. The warrior wants what our true heart and soul yearns for: action, the object of our ambition, a family, real relationships. One is evil, one is good. The battle between the two is very real. An alpha male recognizes the battle, and he fights it every minute of every day. One of the reasons why alpha males are so few, is that the vast majority of the men in this world are cowards. They give in to the path of least resistance. They follow the crowds that lead to an empty life.

At every opportunity, live life like a warrior. This means treating life as a war, but also living a life of discipline and courage. Be the shoulder and the soldier for those who need one. Be the Alpha.

5. Have the Courage to Fail Gloriously

The average person lives in fear of failure. It’s one of the most debilitating forces on the planet. It’s what holds back potentially great men from greatness, and it’s what makes an alpha male, an alpha. Failing at the small, inconsequential things in life is easy. It doesn’t take much courage, and it’s not even worth mentioning. It’s when you follow your heart, your ambition, and work your ass off, that the possibility of failure becomes real, engulfing, and even crushing. This is when a real man rises, fights, forges on, and fights on. An alpha male has becoming an alpha malethe courage to go against the grain, and to attempt to accomplish what has never been done. Thomas Edison was an alpha male, as was Napoleon, and Teddy Roosevelt. Each of them did more in their years than many could in 100 life times. Don’t attempt small, insignificance, attempt and fail gloriously.

6. Become Self-Reliant.

An alpha male doesn’t have to rely on others to succeed in life. He doesn’t have to rely on others to pay his bills, to make his meals, for emotional support, for strength. His strength is internal, it’s developed. You may not have that kind of strength yet, but you’ll get there, as will I.

Please come to the fundamental understanding that in life no one owes you a single thing. Everything you want in life – be they relationships, money, fame, happiness, self-worth, a place in the world where you feel that you matter – you have to create, cultivate, and forge.

becoming an alpha maleAs Mr. Balboa so elloquently stated to his son, “The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place… and I don’t care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently, if you let it.” It’s only through becoming self reliant that you can ensure that you can take care of yourself and those around you.

Now, being self-reliant can take many on meanings, shapes, and forms. In becoming self reliant in the way that we are self reliant physically, to take care of ourselves, where we don’t need someone to build our house, hunt for our food, fix our car, write our report, we can take care of ourselves and truly forge our own path in life.

This is the way of the alpha male. If there’s an area of your life where you need assistance, learn how to assist yourself. I just travelled to Mexico for a week, and completely depended on others knowing English for my survival; never again. Being able to not only survive in a hard world, but thrive in one, is something a modern alpha male must do. Make a list of areas in which you aren’t self reliant, and get working bit by bit.

7. Build The Body of an Alpha Male.

Growing up, Teddy Roosevelt was a weak and sickly boy, something his father would have nothing of. His dad was a strong, strapping man who took pride in his appearance, and what he could do physically. Having a son that would grow up to be a weak man was something he just wasn’t prepared to accept. So he didn’t.

At a young age Roosevelt Sr. put Teddy on a weight lifting routine to build his body, and taught him how to box. Teddy was a true alpha male, and his physical transformation – along with his embracing of the strenuous life – was a large reason for that.

8. Get in a Fist Fight.

Growing up in a Christbecoming an alpha maleian home, I always heard the term “turn the other cheek” in Sunday school, but when I faced my first bully, my Dad told me to stand and fight. He knew that you can’t avoid or back down from a fight unless you first posses the courage and the power to fight.

And so I fought. I beat the bully, and the bully stopped being a bully, and instead became a friend. That’s the way of the warrior. A warrior doesn’t need to fight at every opportunity, actually, he rarely does, but when the time comes where it’s a matter of honor, or of defending another, he has the power to destroy whatever enemy stands in his way. If you let the bully win as a kid, he’ll win as a teen, and again as an adult, and that bully doesn’t get weaker, he gets more cunning, more evil, and more relentless. Great men have known battle. They’ve fought. They’ve been beat physically, and have beaten others physically. They know that the world literally does knock you down, and it’s how many times you get back up that really matters. A real man, and an alpha male, has taken his lumps, and given many to boot.

This isn’t metaphorical: You need to get hit in the face to be an alpha male. You need to see what you’re really made of. You need to get your ass handed to you in the ring, get laid out on the football field, get blindsided on the ice. Physical violence isn’t a nice thing, but it’s a part of who we are. It has been a part of who we are for a long, long time.

Only recently have we been able to avoid confrontation and physical violence and still get through life. We find our confrontation in a false reality, and so we create false men (enter the world of video games). When physical violence and even hard tribulation and competition make an appearance in our lives, we’re ill-equipped to deal with them.

When living without honor becomes easier than living with it, we give in to the easy road because we so deathly fear violence, struggle, and competition. That’s not the way of a real man, nor is it the way of an alpha male. Join a sport, put on some gloves and get in the boxing ring, and enter the ring of life.

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Too much comfort has weakened our society – it’s killed our masculinity. There is no evolution within our species without physical violence. It makes a wimp into a warrior when he stands and fights, physically or metaphorically.

9. At Some Point, Stop Asking for Help

This is in line with self-reliance, but it comes from a more social and financial angle. An alpha male sometimes needs to go off on his own, to become a better leader. He needs to break free from his parents, to become a man. Human relationships are a large part of our happiness on this planet. They’re what give our lives meaning and purpose. But they can also be debilitating for our development if all we do is rely on others for support – support that can come in many forms.becoming an alpha male

One of the toughest things for me to do when I was younger, was to move out of my parents house and start a business at the same time. I’m not suggesting that everyone do this, but I am suggesting that if the time is right – even wrong – you make your life just a bit harder on yourself. Don’t underestimate your internal strength and power. What often holds us back from becoming real men and alpha males is the lack of faith we have in ourselves. We don’t think we have what it takes to cut it in the real world, or we’re afraid to do the work. If you’re at a point where you don’t feel that you can live without the support of your family, friends, cushy job, then break free of these things that keep you safe. Read, and read a lot. Find strength internally, from books, and from the power you have within. It’s there. Make life harder on yourself, or you’ll never experience the power you have within.

10. Become a Voracious Reader.

An alpha male strengthens his mind as well as his body and spirit. Remember, we’re not merely talking about a social alpha, or the leader of a pack. An alpha male doesn’t have to be the biggest guy in the world. If you’ve met any bodybuilders before, you’ll know that they’re often the most insecure guys in the room. They’re not alphas, but they’re huge. The true alpha male is the guy who’s strengthened his mind, which helps him become more self-aware, self-reliant, and confident in a quiet sense. Try not watching any TV for a week, and instead read. Read anything by Stephen Pressfield, Robin Sharma, or Emerson. Read anything on or about Teddy Roosevelt, Abraham Lincoln, or Napoleon Bonaparte. If there’s one commonality between all great men in history, and all great leaders and alpha males, it’s that they had a lust for books. This is no coincidence.

11. Study Unconventional Alpha Males.

Guys like Teddy Roosevelt or Ernest Hemingway are guys I’d deem “conventional alphas”. That is, they’re the kind of manly men we think of when we hear the term alpha male. Both, however, are well-rounded individuals. Instead of focusing merely on the socially alpha characteristics, study some of the “quieter alpha males”.Learn about men who were great men, but without the bravado that comes with the conventional alpha male moniker, so you can be an alpha male in the truest essence of the term.

12. Learn How to Be Successful With Women.

… By first forgetting about them.

Take a look at our Secrets of Speed Seduction featurebecoming an alpha male to learn exactly how to do this effortlessly.. If there’s a beautiful woman within eye-shot, earshot, or simply in the same country, I’ll notice her. I’m sure most guys are like that. We’ve all got a “babe” radar. For some it’s stronger, others it’s weaker. For some guys it can be debilitating in that it makes them nervous, or too aware of themselves and how they’re acting when conversing with a beautiful woman.

Of course, the alpha male is successful with women. They admire him and want to be with him. They can feehis testosterone and internal power, but it isn’t something that he forces upon them, and it’s not something that’s completely physically manufactured. They’re attracted to him because, although he treats every woman like a princess and holds them with high regard, he isn’t concerned with what they think or whether they’ll like him or not.

Now, this will change with a few special ones. Your attraction to them may be too strong, and you may get butterflies, and a bit giddy, but just in the same way you can only turn the other cheek if you first posses the power to stand and fight, you can only handle that beauty who steals your soul if you can first control yourself, and your whits, around other beautiful women.

How do you do this? You must know your priorities. A woman can’t be your first priority in life, your purpose must be. Your purpose is that thing that drives you forward. It keeps you focused and gives your day-to-day actions meaning. Seriously, forget about women, and focus on your own shit. The women will come. You’ll treat them right because you’re a good dude, but you won’t get wrapped around their finger because you’re not a pussy, you’re an alpha man. that’s your ultimate power.
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13. Learn How to Treat a Lady.

An alpha male knows how to treat a woman. This is one part chivalry, one part emotional and spiritual support, one part mental stimulation, and one part being her man, her knight in shining armor.

Of my good friends, and those whom I really respect – including my Old Man, and his Old Man – it’s my friends who first developed as men, then found their dream girl, that have had the most successful relationships. Part of this development is dating. You need to date to learn more about women and how to treat them.

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There are, however, simple things you just do for a woman – much of which has been lost by a misguided “feminism” and the utter emasculation of men in our society. Let’s go over a few:

Grab the check! None of this going dutch bullshit.

Open the door for her.

If she’s cold, put your jacket around her shoulders.

Hug her a lot, hold her close.

Be active in decision making.

Take the fucking lead guys! Too many men just sit back and let their lady choose where to eat, where to go, what to do. Being active shows you care. If you don’t care, don’t be in the relationship. Sometimes you’ll argue and you won’t have a clue what you’re really arguing about. Don’t try and be right all the time. That’s not always the point. Just be there for her, listen to her, and touch her, hug her, let know feel that you’re there.

14. Seek Adventure.

Coming from a guy who spends a far amount of time behind my computer, writing, reading, researching, life isn’t about being in an office, or sitting down. Life, that is, excitement and adventure, is outdoors. Life exists in action. An alpha male is active, adventurous. He doesn’t have to be a daredevil, but he is the guy who says yes when it’s presented, or seeks out adventure. Hebecoming an alpha male isn’t the guy who prefers to sit on his ass playing video games. These days, women are wondering where all the real men have gone? Well, they’ve been lost to MaddenCall of Duty, and World of War Craft. They’ve been taken in by fantasy and ripped from reality. Just as women find romance in their novels and movies, men have been defeated, tamed, and stripped of their masculinity by video games and porn.

Nothing is real anymore. We find a sense of power on the web and behind a controller. So man the fuck up and put that controller down. Get outside! Find adventure. Align your spirit with the warrior that you are. Whatever that means to you in your life, start testing, trying, and figuring out where your adventures lie. An alpha male lives in the excitement that can be his reality. He doesn’t get lost in a false reality and a false world.

15. Be Great At Something.

Whatever your purpose is, or the core skill that your purpose requires, the alpha male must become great at it, not simply good. Good is common. An alpha male is about as uncommon a being as there can be. Michael Jordan understands this. As did Marciano, Ali, and even Tyson. Competitiveness is a trait of the alpha male. His competitiveness, however, isn’t brought from a place of insecurity, like it is in many cases, but from strength and power. We have one life, one chance at doing something the right way, our best way. So many people waist this opportunity with lackluster effort. They waste almost everything with a half-assed approach to life, to their craft, and to competition. Compete and be great at something because it makes more sense! Who the fuck is going to remember or care about someone who doesn’t always give it their all. Teddy Roosevelt is a great example of this. He was a guy who gave lifeitself everything he had, and he left this world with nothing left in the tank.

16. Befriend Your Mortality.

Death is something that is both the one experience every one of us will share in this lifetime, and something we rarely talk about. Well, let’s talk about it.. You are going to die, and that death may be very soon. An alpha male lives withbecoming an alpha male a sense of urgency, appreciation, and freedom that comes with accepting, and befriending his own mortality. Think about your own death every single day, at the beginning of the day. And check out David Shade’s brilliant ‘Be the Fucking Man’. Total genius.

I start each day out with an hour of “me time”. That sounds somewhat new-agy and out there, but it’s powerful. I read and write in my journal, and one of the most powerful things I’ve done as of late, is write down and become very aware of the fact that my death is both imminent, one day closer than it was yesterday, and I’m okay with that.

Am I doing everything I want to be doing with my life? No. Have I accomplished everything I want to accomplish? Hell no! And that’s exciting. You and I both have so much more to do, but we’d better start moving and making big, bold, audacious moves everyday, or before we know it we’ll be an after though.becoming an alpha male

Men are haunted by the vastness of eternity. It scares the crap out of us. We’re here for such a small, insignificant amount of time. And in comparison to that time, we’re pretty damn insignificant. An alpha male does his utmost – and I mean he really does his best – to become the most significant man he can become.

For some, this may mean a couple pages in the books of history. For others this may mean a big spot in the hearts of a few. Neither is better, but the alpha male befriend’s his mortality. He makes it a real part of everyday and lives with the courage that comes with accepting that his death can come at any moment.

17. Live Hard.

An easy life, both physically, emotionally, and spiritually is one that sees little growth and even less experience. Teddy Roosevelt called it The Strenuous Life, whatever you deem it, life should incur a good degree of placed hardship. This is why I’m such a fan of sports; they teach discipline, and they encourage us to enjoy pain, because it’s through pain that an athlete improves and becomes great.

Wake up early.

Work hard in the gym.

Join a boxing club.

Play hard.

Seek adventure and push your limitations.

Don’t give into your lazy tendencies. An alpha male can’t be lazy. He just can’t. It’s completely against his nature. As soon as he becomes lazy, his life becomes meaningless, and he begins to lose. Walk hard. Live hard. Work hard.

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18. Know your Values.

So few men in today’s world know what they value. They feel that everything is okay, nothing is wrong, and to stand up and say something is wrong is to judge. Well that ain’t an alpha male. An alpha doesn’t judge for the sake of judging, but he calls himself and others out if it needs to be done. He’s not so much of a pussy that he fears the wrath of those around him if he voices his opinions and he stands by his values.

Man the fuck up and know what you stand for. Part of this can be done by surrounding yourself with good, strong, honorable men. Men you can look up to and learn from. You can also determine this by facing your fears, and reading. Grow your mind and spirit by pushing yourself.

Stand for something! The alpha male has all but left the planet because he’s failed to have a backbone on any issue, and for any just cause that goes against the crowd. An alpha male isn’t afraid to stand alone if he’s fighting a battle that he deems just.

19. Defend Those Who Need Defending.

To be an alpha male is to be a caretaker; to be someone who has others depending on him. They can depend on his financially, emotionally, spiritually, for wisdom, for inspiration, or for all of the above. But he defends those who can’t defend themselves.becoming an alpha male

Churchill stood up and called for the world to fight an enemy that everyone wanted to avoid. In doing so he fought for millions that couldn’t fight for themselves. Too many people – especially men – stand idly by as innocence suffers, as women have hands raised to them, as kids are abused and mistreated.

We’re to defend those who can’t defend themselves. As an alpha male you can handle yourself, you take care of your body, you’re strong. You have a duty to stand up for those who weren’t blessed with those same benefits, or haven’t yet developed them.

What’s odd is you’re probably going to have to defend them from someone just as physically strong as you, or even a group that could be physically as strong as you. Be a man and defend, fight, and carry for those under your care, and those who aren’t.

20. Know What it is to be Honorable.

Along with the emasculation of society has come the loss of honour. We aren’t training our men to be honourable like we once did. There are not rites of passage in our society. If there is no one to show men what honor is, how

can they be honourable? The mark of a warrior, of a real man, and of an alpha male, is that he’s an honorable man. He doesn’t hit a man when he’s down, he doesn’t cheat, rob, becoming an alpha malesteal, or pick on those weaker than him. If he makes a mistake, he owns up to it. If he sees someone in trouble, even if he’s outnumbered, he comes to their aid. If there’s one characteristic of the 21 steps I’m mentioning here, honor is the one you should hold with the highest respect. Know what it’s like to live with honor. If you don’t, you can’t be a man, and you can’t be an alpha male.

21. Be a Good Person.

Being good isn’t seen as an admirable quality like it once was. Things are given more importance than the kind of people we are. And what’s the benefit to us if we’re good?becoming an alpha male

Well, just like life is going to be hard – a guarantee that you can take to the bank – life also isn’t all about you or I. We’re a part of something here on this planet. A part of everyone else on this planet. Being good is important, it’s maybe more important than all of the other steps you need to take to become an alpha male.

Being good is also rarely associated with being an alpha. It’s usually associated with being a doormat or a lapdog, or someone that other people walk all over, tease, or beat up. But a man – a real man – that can be a warrior, live hard, fight for what he believes, knows his values, and is a good person, is someone that history and life will be kind to.

I put be a good person last on this list to hammer the point home. Everything we’ve already talked about on this list; having a purpose, living hard, working hard, being adventurous, living life as a warrior, are all null and void if you’re not a good person. Being a good person isn’t merely in your heart, either. The world is filled with people who “have a good heart.” It’s useless without good action. Don’t gossip. Gossiping and talking behind others back is weak. Don’t do it. Help others when it inconveniences you. Anyone can help others when it’s easy, but doing it when it makes your life harder, is the sign of an alpha male. Live a life that benefits others. Your job may only make you money, but does that money help you support your family? Do you give to others? Benefit others in every way you can.

Lift people up, never tear them down. For some reason people love tearing others down. It makes us feel more powerful, more important. Don’t. If you’ve followed all of the steps thus far, you’re a warrior, you’re self- aware enough to know if you’re treating people like shit to fill a void within yourself. Don’t fill that void, fill theirs with kindness and you will get filled up too.

Becoming An Alpha Male

All we can do to ensure that we’re successful in this life is take responsibility for us; for who we are, what we accomplish, and how we live.

becoming an alpha maleTo ask for hand outs is a step towards the life of a coward, not an alpha male. To want what others have and not work to get it is a step towards the life of a coward. To be jealous is cowardly, as is gossip. To lie, cheat, and steal, again, cowardly. The alpha male is on the other side to the coward. The coward has many peers, the alpha male, many he’s in charge of caring for. When he fights the battle of life, he isn’t merely fighting for his own pride and honor, but for the pride and honor of everyone around him, or connected to him.

I’ve given you steps on how to become an alpha male. They aren’t easy steps. Actually, the majority of them are the exact opposite. They call for struggle, pain, and sacrifice. They ask you to live a hard life, to fight, to get hurt, knocked down, and to test yourself every chance becoming an alpha maleyou get. They ask you to be a warrior and a man.

It’s easy to sit in front of your TV and play video games. It’s easy to find a sense of strength online, and a sense of pleasure in porn. It’s easy to cheat, to take from others, and to look the other way when the weak need your help. If you want easy, then you can’t be an alpha male. If you embrace the struggle, the hardship, and the adventure that is the battlefield of life, though there may be more pain and loss, there is definitely more meaning, and more life, as an alpha male.

About Chad Howse

Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live. He’s a former 9-5er turned entrepreneur, a former scrawny amateur boxer turned muscular published fitness author. He’ll give you the kick in the ass needed to help you live a big, ambitious life. Check out his work for a whole lot more incredible information on raising your game to the next level and becoming the Alpha Male that women are looking for.

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